I know so many people who are so talented, so intelligent, so blessed... and who are so unhappy or angry, so lost, and so lonely - even when they are in relationships or have good jobs, great kids, a beautiful home or any number of attributes socially considered successful. I recognize this because I was there myself. If we're honest, we all have been at one time or another.
Yep - I didn't know what I had, couldn't see the damage I was inflicting on my own life and mind, and focused only on tomorrow. My favorite phrase was "as soon as..."
I thought I had all the time in the world to "get there..." It never dawned on me that "THERE" was already present with me. I forgot what it was like to be in The or Any Moment. I really didn't even know how to be happy and got exceptionally annoyed with anyone who was chipper or dared to suggest I learn how to be happy again... who were they to tell ME anything? They didn't know my circumstances, couldn't possibly understand my stress or pain, and could never tell me HOW exactly to BE happy.
As if happy was a state of being rather than a momentary feeling... hmph.
What happened? Why did I feel that way?
As a child and later as a young woman, I was taught two things among many about how to "be successful" which I was told would make me HAPPY: 1) don't depend on anyone; 2) perfection is attainable if you try hard enough.
How? You could make straight A's; hit a homerun if you concentrated; score the winning basket if you took the shot yourself... while these are seemingly individual achievements, the first requires good teachers and the opportunity to learn, the latter two are team sports. Hmmm...
Those two premises are fundamentally flawed because both invalidate the joy of the journey and deceive you into thinking you can be an Island - A Tower of Strength - mistaking independence with being alone while setting perfection as the only acceptable goal, leaving you feeling disappointed no matter how much you attain or obtain in life.
The Island Theory lulls you into believing you can do it all , all by yourself; don't need help; and really shouldn't even ask for it because that would be weak... when in reality true strength is exemplified in vulnerability, humility, and selflessness - all of which can only be experienced with others.
So in your journey toward your Vision, your Dream, Yourself - consider your thoughts and the words you speak. Are they positive - encouraging you or inspiring others and allowing you to embrace the beautiful journey? or are they negative - holding you back from BEING, let alone Being Happy or Loved; feeling grounded or connected - keeping you on your own island?
Think it through, write down the thoughts you have and the words you speak. Then determine for yourself if they are helping or hindering you from achieving your state of Being that embraces happiness and empowers you to reach your dream.
THINK. WRITE. BELIEVE. ACT.