How to Choose?

How do you make a choice?  Especially if the choice is between two things / people / options you love or two you hate?

• Do you make a list of Pros and Cons?
• Do you consider your options? alternatives?
• Do you choose not to choose - to wait for lightning or thunder to give you a sign?
• Do you wait to feel something else? something different?

What would it take for you to finally make that decision and CHOOSE?

It's easy to armchair quarterback.  When it comes to others, we often SEE so clearly... but in our own lives, we can become frozen.  Stuck.  And the fear of making the WRONG choice often immobilizes us from making ANY choice.

- but - what's worse?  No choice or the wrong one?

I believe that NO choice is worse than making the wrong one.  I believe that because if you are able to make a choice - and it doesn't turn out like you wanted - you have the ability to choose differently in most cases. (common sense here please, felonies are no brainers... ;)

If you refuse to make a choice however, you and whomever your choice impacts, remains in Limbo-land... and for me at least, that's worse than any wrong decision.  In my heart, I know a bad decision can almost always be turned around.  You can make amends.  You can choose differently.  But you can't 'unstuck stuck' without ACTION.

We all make bad choices at times.  We're human.  It's inevitable.  When you do and you realize it's the wrong decision, you can move heaven and earth to fix your mistake and if necessary seek forgiveness.

Now all this isn't to say that you shouldn't weigh your choices VERY carefully!  And it also doesn't mean that you should DO things you can't un-do thoughtlessly... NO.  On the contrary!

What it does mean is that you can only agonize over your options for so long - eventually you simply must choose.  That's life.  If you don't, someone or something else will choose FOR you.  Maybe for you - that's okay.  It absolves you from responsibility then right?  Perhaps.  But then, that doesn't mean what happens is what's supposed to happen nor does it mean that the result is what's best.  In fact, in my life I've seen the OPPOSITE to be true in almost every case.

So how to choose?

Write your Vision.

SEE the end result of your choice - as best you can - and then THINK about which outcome will fulfill your life the MOST.  Think about which will challenge you the most; which will bring you the most joy; which will teach you the most.  Choose to SEE these end results in their most positive form: the ultimate desired future - what your heart of hearts WANTS - your Perfect World.

- Honesty is All that is Required -

Note: Don't try to figure out HOW to get this! ONLY write what you truly, deeply Want!

Once you can SEE that, CHOOSE to Believe in that potential, its possibility!  - Fight the Fear -

and, ACT!  Take the steps to make your Perfect World (nothing less - no settling) a reality.

Only YOU can... because the choice about your future - your dream - your vision is and has always been yours.  WRITE your Vision!  It will reveal which choice is ultimately the right one for you.

And remember, "Don't Wait 50 years..." to be with your true love (quote: Letters to Juliet)  ;)

       THINK.       WRITE.       BELIEVE.       ACT.