The Twilight movies capitalize on that romantic dream. They promote the notion of a perfect individual and a near-perfect love... oh and of course, the turmoil that creates.
What would a true love affair be without turmoil? without the plot twists and conflict? without the hero or heroine being forced to make a choice? and often without having to choose between two people who love you or you love (as the hero in your own story) - the love triangle?
I believe everyone wants to be loved.
For most, the dream is to love and to be loved... to have the family? career? maybe... but almost always, we want the loving, sexy spouse/partner who is all the things we WANT but also what we NEED.
In our scenario above (as with most books, movies or stories), the love triangle is one where the good guy/girl (e.g., Bella) must choose between the person who may be better FOR you/them (e.g., Team Jacob) verses the one you truly love who in all likelihood comes with challenges (e.g., Team Edward).
The first one is safe, probably the choice friends and family would prefer, and the one that makes the most sense.
The second one is a risk, most likely the choice friends and family would cringe at, and the one that makes absolutely NO sense... except in the center of your soul.
Have you heard the expression, "Life often imitates Art?" Well that's true enough... as is "When it rains, it pours." You've not had a date in 10 years then suddenly you start dating a nice guy and WHAMO now you meet 4 other guys who want to take you out. Hmmmm.
Here, I talk about dreams. Your vision for your life. What you BELIEVE... whether we are talking about love or a choice between jobs (staying in your current safe one or taking the risk to follow your dream) or any other of 100 scenarios - the message is the same:
THINK about who YOU are!
Will it make you happier to stay where you are, to appreciate what you have, and to just 'be?' Fifty years from now, will you look back and regret your choice?
- If you can positively answer these, then you KNOW yourself and you KNOW your choice. Follow that vision for yourself and embrace your truth. At the end of the day, you value stability - so your vision should reflect what you want!
- If you would like to be able to just 'be' but in your heart, you still need that other person or dream about something different then take the risk and embrace that truth. At the end of the day, you won't truly be happy with anything less.
THINK about what YOU need. WRITE down what's really true - not a list of Pros and Cons but what your dream, your heart's deepest desire actually IS! And then BELIEVE in the possibility of your happy ending and ACT on that!
Don't let fear, doubt, or any negative thought keep you from what is meant for you! Those things only tear you down, keep you in the past, and will destroy your Vision.
You'll never see clearly if you see the world from that vantage point. Take your power back! BE who you are meant to be! Be with who you are meant to be with! and DO what you were born to do!
Choose based on what YOU want, what you really WANT... no one else. Just you - without fear.
(NOTE: If you don't know, then you owe it to yourself to FIND OUT!!)
The rest will take care of itself. ;)